Welcome to Your Thirties
There’s something that happens when you turn 30. Friendships change and never seem to be the same again. I know those of you over 30 know what I’m talking about. Gone are the days of staying out ’til 2, arms wrapped around each other, singing your hearts out through the streets. It just becomes a thing of the past. Friendship shifts and changes through each stage of our lives, but moving into friendship in your thirties is like moving into the next phase of adult life. And if you’re anything like me, even though you’ve been paying taxes since you were 16, you just don’t really feel like an adult yet.
I’ve been married and divorced, owned two homes, attended college and grad school, and dealt with countless other adult life experiences, but somehow I still feel like a little kid sometimes, just figuring it all out. One thing I’ve been trying to figure out lately is friendships. Some of my favorite television shows center around a fantastic group of friends that I completely aspire to. Friends, Sex and the City, How I Met Your Mother… hell, even The Walking Dead features a group of friends that are like a family to each other. Sometimes it makes me wish I had friends living in the apartment across the hall that were routinely popping by to nibble on the contents of my fridge and share hilarious jokes with (Oh Joey…).
But…reality check. On Friends they were all in their twenties. Once they all started turning 30, Monica and Chandler got married and wanted to move to the country, Rachel became a single mother, Ross had been divorced twice and was the father of two children, Phoebe got married, and Joey’s career became more intense and time consuming. Ultimately they parted ways. I’m sure they kept in touch, but it would never be the same as when they were in their twenties. And that’s fictional.